Standards in Boredoms

This is a topic that has always been pretty touchy. From a distance I think plenty of people think it's not good for people have harsh physical standards for people they date, I like to think I'm one of those. It's hard when it's closer to you, though. I dated a girl in high school who wasn't really someone I pictured myself dating before then. She wasn't unattractive, she just never struck me that way. I think I just became more attracted to her on a personal level as we spent more time together. I like to think that's the way dating should work.

It doesn't work that way, though, does it? This isn't a rant based off me being rejected or some stupid "I'm a nice guy, why don't girls want my bone" bullshit, I just think that, despite how jaded I've become, some part of me likes to believe in real love instead of animal attraction and hot sex. There's a girl in my life now that confessed some time ago that she liked me. It took me off guard because it's been years since anybody has liked me in that way. The only problem was I didn't feel anything for her. She's a really cool person and geeky (love me some geeky) and I love hanging out with her I just don't feel anything towards her romantically. So now I wonder...am I just being a dick? She's overweight (not something that honestly bothers me within a certain degree) but cute. I hate considering the possibility that her looks might factor into that subconsciously.

At the same time would it be any better for me to go out with her, despite my not feeling that way, in hopes my feelings will change? If they don't that is most certainly not fair to her. Though...that's not really my call to make is it? I should just keep sworn off relationships. I know lots of people say things like that but I'm lucky enough to be undesirable to 99% of people so it's super easy for me.