Bugged in Dealing with the Devil

With everything going on with the kids dad I’ve been ok with. Bummed that more hasn’t been done till this point and that I too had to play his game. I talked to the DA before he went to court on Jan 30th with all my concerns and frustrations. He came to my house yelling I told him. Knowing he has an order of protection on you have to call the cops you have to tell on him. My hands are tied… But he’s already gone twice for Criminal Contempt and they let him out and it felt like they did nothing. This time I get it I see and can make things happen. Sigh. I didn’t have that ability before. Sigh. You have to trust me things are getting done behind the scenes. Sigh. Okay. I will try to trust you and I will call the cops. This is 3 days before his son’s birthday. @ days after hi s youngest son’s birthday.

He shows up to my house not long after court… Heehee he laughs as says the that defense is expecting him to screw up. Took a picture but didn’t have the heart to call. Thought about going to the police and backed out. He did that a few times the next week and then I was going on vacation.

I didn’t want to call I wanted to talk to them. The police that is. I did finally get up the nerve to go down there and talked to them whom gave me a number to call the next day. I talked to the officer on the phone that was less than nice. I knew I was going to get that. I already feel like a tattle tale and a snitch. I guess that’s why it was so hard. In all honesty I was trying to make the polices job easier. Dennis is eyeing me the whole time he’s at the house and would know if I called the police that would put my life in jeopardy he would be way gone before they ever showed up. You have to ambush him. He knows the system. They told me to meet with the detective and I did. He was very nice and I explained what I was dealing with and what was going on. From the stuff that went on in the other city we lived to why it has turned into this monster. I told him I was leaving for FL and that I would try to make it easier on the officers. And also why I was doing it this way. Poignant thing I told him was Dennis doesn’t fit into the usual box. I said. I was a case manager myself and he does stuff different and told him about the time he had a police escort to get his stuff in the other city and he took a shower and left his dirty clothes and got new ones. He was a little surprised at that. He wanted me to leave the key at the neighbors and totally forgot. Dennis showed up when I was leaving to go to the airport so it was chaotic. He did want the key to the house and I didn’t fight him.

So the first few days he stayed at the other house and then finally did stay in my current home. The detective did email me and I updated him the entire time. On the last night of vacation they did decide to come to my house. they called me and asked if they could enter and I said yes. I’m assuming Dennis unlocked the door as they said the front door was unlocked and that is not like him. They arrested him an took him away and is in jail. they wanted me to do an escort home and I didn’t . They did come to my house later on that evening when I returned to check on us.

I feel guilty.....I know I shouldn’t and know this had to happen but telling on him when he wasn’t doing anything wrong makes me feel crappy. Yes I know he was breaking the law and has a total disregard for the law.

I guess I still have thoughts about the police officer I talked to first before meeting with the detective. He told me why don’t I do something different like this is my fault. And then proceeds to tell me that I’m wrong. Sigh.... I’m also not your average domestic violence victim either. I own my house. I have a job. I do control most of what goes on around me. Their best piece of advice is lock your doors. Really??? The kids go to school, I go to work. Since I own a house I have to keep up maintenance on the outside too. Shoveling, Lawn care.. Etc… Kids want to play outside, at their friends, grocery shopping, errands .......The shelters are full.
At least the detective was kind… he said that was unrealistic. Duh!!!