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If you do not possess a deep capacity for Anger, your Compassion or so-called Gentleness means nothing to me.
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The Talk in A Childhood Lost
Just want to share my experience as a child growing up in an incredibly unconscious/projecting and narcissistic household. My ‘talk’ consisted of my mom confronting me after having read a story ...
I am constantly thinking about how my life relates to my relationship with my mom. This has become glaringly obvious to me since I read a journal entry from this time last year; “I entered the ...
had a few really deep conversations this weekend. One was about privacy. I don’t really understand how people can separate their children from the concept of people. I think it’s one thing if y...
Who I was in A Childhood Lost
When I started to describe to my therapist how I behaved as a child, and for most of my life, she said to me, “You were terrified.” Yeah, I was. I do realize that. But, you know… it’s so difficu...
A lot of things on in Journal
my mind today. Yesterday was a family get-together with the In-Law side of the family. Mostly it was a very nice, relaxed, fun, and engaging afternoon. There was but one problem. Every time I fe...
I can't believe it, but in Journal
the tantrum worked. I’ve got to thank my therapist.
Is it time? in Journal
To move on? Yeah, I think it is. I’m not getting anywhere, and it’s all so boring, now. I have the feeling that I have grown past her. I have reached a point of maturity that she never did. I am...
Unreasonable. in Journal
“You have unreasonable expectations and you found your out.” she responded to me when I told her that she recently violated both of my requested boundaries. Nothing about “oh, I didn’t realize t...
I talked with my therapist today and, I told her of my worries and issues with my husband. I told her that I feared that his family is taking advantage of him, that he is being used by them for p...
I am resigned, I think, to the fact that my mother is incapable of behaving in any reasonable way around me. I decided to lay down just 2 boundaries with her. She mowed over both of them the ver...
Aunt died yesterday morning.
Yesterday, DH and I drove down to see his Aunt, who is on her deathbed in hospice. The trip was… unsettling. As I suppose, all close encounters with death are. What I found most disturbing abou...
What do I want? in Journal
I think about the areas in my life that I am too passive. I am tired of mentally berating my “mother”. I am growing weary of it. Does that mean I am done? Close to done? Perhaps. I think of ever...
Benefits in A Childhood Lost
Accrue in accordance with the original contractual obligation and no party shall abdicate their contractual obligation without express written permission and agreement from both parties in the fo...
Perhaps it is better that we text. I can read everything and there is hard evidence of what she has said. Yesterday, mom (J) - I’m going to stop calling her mom, she was not and is not a mom, bec...
I was being Groomed in Dreams
In my dream last night, I was me and I was being groomed by my mom (J) in order to attract and win a powerful, affluent man. She was literally grooming- cleaning my ears. She had been cleaning th...
She expects from you in Journal
what you should be getting from her.” DH said to me yesterday. I can’t really explain the level of gratitude, closeness, and affection that I felt for him when he said that. He was really tryin...
Ignorance in A Childhood Lost
I fear and hate it. It is my mother’s most oft used excuse; and she pulls it out in defense of the most heinous crimes. Ignorance, I think, has always been my worst enemy. It’s used to justify ...
Vanity in A Childhood Lost
I exchanged emails with an Aunt recently. I asked her, if she was willing, to share any tidbits about my childhood with me. She responded with one example; she noticed that my parents were exces...
Laying Down a New Foundation in Journal
is really really difficult. I hate my parents for their incredible negligence in preparing me for life. The gulf that I must now cross is immense. It’s a gulf of ignorance. It’s the same gulf th...
Cruel in A Childhood Lost
Cruelty is pleasure in inflicting suffering or inaction towards another’s suffering when a clear remedy is readily available. My therapist brought up this word as a response to more than one stor...
Mom came over in Journal
to pick up her milk bottles. She gave us some extra milk she had 2 weeks ago, and I haven’t seen her since to give them back. She just drove up, left the car running while she came to the door. ...
Love in A Childhood Lost
IFS has been truly transformative. Yesterday, I had 2 IFS sessions. One with my therapist, and one with my peer partner. I worked primarily to transform 3 parts; a little 5 year old girl who want...
Impersonal. in Journal
My old therapist told me that, what my parents did was because of who they are, not because of who I was. I brought this up to my mom. She said, that was one of the biggest lessons she learned f...
Forgiveness in A Childhood Lost
I was talking to a fellow boards member the other day about his father. Obviously, it made me think of my own father. One thing that struck me, was that he hated his time with his father. Ah, I...
