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still here
My feelings about M’s absence improve greatly when we’re able to talk on the phone. I hate the phone. But I also can’t infer M’s state of mind from texts, especially when they’re always angry ran...
emotionally compromised
I have been mainlining Star Trek. Before M left we watched all of the star trek movies. Well, “all”, up until 2009 (which is where the title reference comes from. Since he left I’ve been rewatc...
Weekends: The Sadness continues.
The short week was good for my brain. But I’m having a hard time not feeling generally miserable without M. On Wednesday I got a call from the optometrist that my glasses were ready! I settled o...
Everything is sad and my peeps are great.
I haven’t exactly been avoiding writing, more like I’ve been avoiding thinking. M left Wednesday morning, and we’ve been texting pretty steady since then. He did his test on Thursday, and “It’s d...
Everything is great and I'm sad.
Been doing some grade A Adulting lately, and feeling pretty good about things. But M leaves in 8h and I’m going to miss the shit out of him. A week ago I finally saw an optometrist. He did all ...
figuring myself out
Stolen. I really wanted to write jokes for most of these, but I erased them and really tried to be earnest. This is pie in the sky stuff. Fantasy self that I’d love to make a reality. Personal —...
7 principles for anti-consumerist minimalism
This is 100% for me, feel free to not pay attention to my minimalism readings. recognise benefits - as you declutter, pay attention to the good thoughts and feelings that come from it. “It’s eas...
More tears
I spent the whole day in such a rage… by now I’m just exhausted. Which is letting the sad creep in. Somewhere in the transition intrusive thoughts joined the chat. It’s nice that I got a chance t...
Tina says I'm amazing
She also says it’s not a compliment, as though it’s an objective statement. She was basically saying that it’s amazing that I manage to keep perspective despite the extreme emotional response I h...
I've been meaning to
As usual either life is humming along and I don’t think about writing, or I think about writing but haven’t figured out what to say yet. I try to write after therapy because that seems to genera...
living for the weekend
This week was rough. M and I took Monday off, but then there was a snow storm and it was a snow day anyway. Tuesday morning I went to PT, and during one of the circuits I felt something in my rig...
RSD and another great weekend.
So not a single person commented on my forum post… and I did ok not letting that eat away at me. But I also came to another realisation. There’s a good chance that the reason I’m getting a whole ...
emothings
I came here to write about this, but then I ended up posting it elsewhere first. I’m editing it because journal context is not the same as forum context. So I’ve been working with Tina on emotio...
perfect weekend
Last week was decent. I took on cleaning out my sections group email, which had 2,800 unsorted emails in the inbox. Srsly. That was Monday, by Friday there was 1,700. M and I had lunch together i...
Uncluttered
I’m feeling really anxious. The only thing I can think of that would trigger this is the meeting M and I had with our financial planner, “Katia”. We talked for two hours about where we are financ...
1,957 days, FINALLY
Because I’m feeling pedantic: Today, finally, after 1,957 days, I was finally promoted to Captain. It should have taken me 1,096 days. That’s 861 days late, also expressed as 2.36 years late. I ...
My therapist is proud of me
Today my new boss told me my promotion ceremony will be on Monday. So I was pretty stoked and smiley this morning. Then my old boss got to work, took one look at the smile on my face and said, “O...
Resolutions 2024
My resolutions for the last few years have been basically the same. Read more, ride more, move more, knit more, be social more. While I think those are still important goals to set, and I still ...
Annual Survey 2023
I have been doing this same survey since 2014, but since I jumped journals I don’t have the full archive anymore. Here’s 2022’s. What did you do in 2023 that you’d never done before? - Be the ca...
Fuck yeah!!
I did it! Of course we’re “working from home” tomorrow because of freezing rain, and Friday is the first day of holidays, so my promotion is going to have to wait. That’s ok. It’s done. I am so r...
FFS
I failed my fitness test on Thursday. I fucked up the process on the first activity, twice, and was 0.6 seconds over the allotted time. The invigilator told me to “not worry about the process”, ...
the hardest
TW: pet death Today was awful. The end. … I wish. M and I stewed until noon. I ran into work to deliver my chili for the cookoff. He cleaned. I stared at the wall. M cried, I couldn’t. The ve...
things
I got my stitch out today. When I said I was doing my fitness test on Thursday she laughed and said “no you’re not”. I replied with a laugh and, “yes I am”. She then gave me tips to wrap my fing...
masking
I’ve written about this before. But it keeps showing up in new and unexpected ways. And hilariously I just left a comment on someone’s entry about knowing myself and not caring about what other ...
I don't wanna
TW: pet end of life care I don’t want to write this. I don’t want to think about the last 48h. I don’t want to think about the next week. But this is the shit that needs writing down. Friday, a...
Book Description
Pretty self-explanatory