Candlelight Non-Delightful “date” in Journey Back to ME

Okay, so I’ve finally found the time to sit down and update about my date to the Candlelight Concert.

I showed up to his house looking absolutely stunning if I might say so myself. I of course have no photo evidence of this because having a mini photo shoot as I usually do would have taken a lot of time and energy that I didn’t have that day.

First, we went to dinner. I took him to this restaurant that I had never been, but had been wanting to go. I made reservations and everything. I ordered a glass of my favorite wine, and he ordered a glass of whiskey. For an appetizer we had a Cobb Salad with deviled eggs. Conversation was pretty good. However, he told me that he had been doing research to figure out what events had been going on in town that night (trying to figure out where I was taking him), and he said “the only thing I could find is a Candlelight Concert I wanted to go to.” This actually really upset me because the joy in this for me was the simple fact that it was all a surprise. So for someone not to trust my ability to surprise them (never mind the fact that I was paying for everything), it kind of annoyed me. Why ruin the joy of being surprised by doing research and eventually figuring out what it was. He was excited to find out that that was where I would be taking him.

For dinner, I ordered Vegetable Linguine, and he ordered the Sea Bass and it came with risotto or something. I was kind of taken aback at the price of the items he ordered. Now, did I have the money to cover dinner? Yes. I’m an adult that works and if I couldn’t afford it, I wouldn’t have gone. Even had the shoe been on the other foot and he had taken me out, I wouldn’t have ordered some of the most pricey items on the menu. I mean, I ordered an $8 glass of wine, and a $18 meal…he opted for top shelf liquor and a $30 plate. I had never seen him order so lavishly with his own money, so that kind of rubbed me the wrong way. With tip included I paid $100 for dinner. So that was strike 2 for me!

The Candlelight concert was held at the local Aviation Museum. However, they transformed the space into absolute peace, tranquility and ROMANCE! Our seats were front row. I could reach out and touch the stage if I wanted. We were close enough that I could read the music whilst the musicians were playing. That was one of the best parts for me, as a fellow musician…Anyway, there was a balcony overseeing the downstairs area where people paid extra to sit at tables to look DOWN on the concert. It was a very romantic atmosphere. I had left my wallet in the car, as to not have to tote around my extremely large and clunky wallet. The venue was selling wine and things. He didn’t offer to buy me any. Strike 3! LOL.

The music was beautiful, the musicians were amazing…it was an hour of really good music and beautiful ambiance. The glow of the candlelight’s with the beautiful sound of a stringed quartet was definitely a one of a kind experience.

After the concert we went back to his house, which I was actually looking forward to. I had packed my things to stay over night just in case. When he relaxes and has a good time, we really do have a good time. We sit around and watch movies, and smoke a little and laugh a lot. This is what I thought would happen. Instead, he wanted to sit out in his garage and WORK. Yes, you got that right. He wanted to sit down on his laptop in his cold garage and work, and he wanted me to HELP HIM. This put an extreme damper on my mood as I was getting tired at this point. The whole reason for this date was for him to take his mind off of things. Work is probably the most important thing to him (even more so than his daughter), but it is extremely unattractive to be that level of obsessed with work. After a while, I couldn’t stop yawning and I said I would be heading home. He offered for me to sleep over, but I knew this would mean that I’d be going to bed alone and I wouldn’t even get sex out of it. So I took it for what it was and drove home a little before midnight.

I haven’t seen him since!

There were so many moments while out on this date where I realized how much I have evolved from last year when I was all but obsessed with him. I have changed so much. I didn’t even feel like it was a date. I didn’t even feel an attraction…pretty much just further acceptance that this person simply is not the person for me and could never be. Whatever we had is long gone and over…and I am more than happy with that! If I was as invested as I was last year, I would have been ALL in my feelings over this effort I put forth. I just accepted it, let it go and moved forward! GO ME!

All in all, I’m glad I went! The concert was fun, dinner was great…I‘lol opt to just take myself out next time.

Last updated March 24, 2024